Tips For Dating a Friend

“Tips For Dating a Friend”

Interested in turning a friendship into a romantic relationship? Got a secret crush on your best friend? Here are 7 tips for dating a friend.

1) Be Prepared To Lose the Friendship

First of all, if you are considering dating
a friend, you should be prepared to lose the
friendship. I know I’ll probably be bashed by sappy
folks for saying this, but it’s just a harsh truth
based on all the cases I’ve seen as a dating
coach in the past ten years.

If your friend does not reciprocate your
feelings, he or she may “freak out” and pull back
from you.

Even if your friend does like you back and
you guys end up dating, the relationship may not last
forever. And when the breakup finally happens, it may
not be as amicable as you would hope.

2) Don’t Just Say It

If you like your friend, make sure you don’t
just “spill your beans” and reveal how you feel.
They may NOT feel the same way. Even if they did,
“telling” them would kill their interest level.
Instead of wearing your heart on your sleeve and
letting yourself blurt it out, just follow the tips
in this article and take things one step at a time.

3) Make Them See You Differently

Your first job is to stop bring predictable and make
them start seeing you differently? Why? Because they
probably think they know you very well and that there
is no reason to go from being “friends” to dating.
You gotta change that. Surprise them by showing more
sides to you. (They better be good things!) Make them
realize that there is a LOT more to you than what
meets the eye. You gotta make them intrigued by you,
or you’re going to be stuck as a friend forever.

4) Know When To Pull Back

This may feel counter-intuitive, but sometimes
you have to pull back before you can advance. If
you friend currently takes your presence in their
life for granted, then maybe it’s time to
disappear for a little while so that when you talk
again, you can do so from a clean slate.

5) Do Exciting Things and Act Like a Challenge

This goes with making your friend see you differently.
Do things that are “different”, unique, and exciting.
At the same time, stop being “nice” and start doing
things more on your own terms. Don’t just be a nice
“best guy friend” or “best girl friend”. Be independent,
exciting, and unique. Make them miss you and want
to hang out with you.

6) Flirt and Raise the Physical Attraction

Once you have your friend seeing you differently, ypu
should flirt, flirt, and flirt some more. I can’t
emphasize this enough. It is extremely important that
you start taking things to a more “physical level.”
When you’re dealing with a friend you’re known for
a long time, it usually takes a LOT of physical
chemistry to get them to start fantasizing about
being in a relationship with you. So go for a kiss
(or more) if you can!

6) Know How To Transit

How you handle the first kiss or make-out session
with be a make-or-break for your new relationship.
If you act weird or don’t know what to do, doubt
will creep in and your friend may start feeling
guilty about doing what they did with you since
you’re “just friends”. Don’t allow that to happen.
Prolong that “post-kiss” or “post-make-out”
afterglow for as long as possible by acting like
a lover. Cuddle and whisper sweet things into
your friend’s ears until it feels like you are
together already.

7) Keep the Interest Level High

The interest level may fluctuate for awhile
due to guilt and confusion. So make sure you
keep on flirting and acting like a challenge.
Otherwise, you’re going to hear the “Let’s
just be friends” request pretty soon!